Honoring loss

Most of us need encouragement to achive success but how often do we receive encouragement in order to deeply investigate and grieve the losses we’ve experienced?  That is the question I have been pondering today, inspired by comments left on this blog, advising me to take time to grieve.

It is a question taken up by Jack Kornfield, meditation teacher, psychotherapist and author of “A Path with Heart,” “After the Ecstasy the Laundry,” and “Seeking the Heart of Wisdom”, all of which I regularly dip into when looking for solace and guidance.

He believes we must honor our losses, our pain, our tears,  sorrow, the rage and grief we carry. In many ways we live in a culture, he says, which has forgotten how to grieve our losses honorably so that we can move on. Without the tears to water the garden we just armor ourselves and soldier forward and the heart doesn’t learn the lessons necessary. Wise grieving allows us to free our hearts and move on.

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1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. Carrie
    Jun 25, 2009 @ 11:10:58

    This is a beautifully written piece, thank you for posting and I hope you get your dream soon x

    Reply

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