On being brave

This post is dedicated to all of us brave women who struggle with infertility and pregnancy loss.

Someone said to me recently, “you must be very brave, you’ve dealt with cancer, fertility treatment and miscarriages and yet you are prepared to keep going”. I don’t think I’m brave. In fact I am scared and anxious and unconvinced most of the time when it comes to my fertility struggles.  

But it got me thinking (adopts a Carrie Bradshaw voice) what is bravery? Can you still be brave and scared? I read a quote once from Bear Grylls, the Mount Everest climber and star of Born Survivor, who should know a thing or two about bravery.

“I’ve seen extreme bravery from the least likely of people” he said, “Life is about the moments when it’s all gone wrong. That’s when we define ourselves.”

Those of us struggling with infertility and pregnancy loss know all about those moments when it’s all gone wrong – and yes, it does ultimately define us. Do we go under or do we keep on pushing forward towards our dreams of motherhood?

Today I heard another quote (via freeingforty.blogspot.com) which really resonated with me:

“What is important is not to be defeated, to forge ahead bravely. If we do this, a path will open before us.” ~ Daisaku Ikeda

So let’s not be defeated, let’s forge ahead bravely, trusting that the path will open before us, and most of all let’s continue to support each other along the way.

Yours in hope

Marie xxx


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. debbie
    Oct 22, 2010 @ 17:18:04

    “If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together.. there is something you must always remember. you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. but the most important thing is, even if we’re apart.. i’ll always be with you.” – Winnie the Pooh

    I think you are very brave Marie:)
    Love, Deb


  2. JBBC
    Oct 22, 2010 @ 17:19:18

    Oh I forgot that one – yes, I love that quote too! Thanks for the reminder and for ALL your wonderful support – that’s what makes me brave!


  3. Lorna
    Oct 22, 2010 @ 21:50:24

    I think it is incredible what some women (and men) go through in order to have a baby and it seems so cruel that some children go thru childhood being abused etc but that’s another topic!
    You are incredibly brave, all the more so because you are forging ahead and you are scared and as Fiona Phillips quoted her doctor – brave women are usually rewarded.


  4. Luann
    Oct 24, 2010 @ 09:57:48

    Marie you are not only brave, you are a leader and an inspiration to “just keep going” when it is so easy to quit. You keep digging and searching for answers. Then you impart what you have learned to others. Debbie I love the quote and Lorna thanks for the reminder from Fiona that brave women are usually rewarded.


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